Dee's guide to writing your own Vows....

​ "So, are you planning on writing your own vows....?'
It's a question that your Celebrant will no doubt ask early in planning your ceremony. 
It's also a question that elicits the most panic in some people.
The idea of writing your own vows and saying them in front of your family and friends
with a microphone can be intimidating. To say the least. 

Fear not, I'm here to help!

Here are my tips for writing and delivering vows that will make your beloved's heart soar! 

Amazing photographers capturing your Vows and my loved up face....! 
Georgia Verrells, Blueton Studio, Weddings With Ryal 

1. I got you!
I'll ask to you to send me your vows separately so that they are a surprise to each other on the day. 
I will read over them. I will provide feedback.... if you want me to. 
I will check that your Vows are the same tone and roughly the same length. 
I will most likely get emotional when I read them. 

Then, I will print them and have them ready for you on your Wedding Day. 
There's no memorising, writing it on your hand or having a crumbled piece  of paper tucked
into your pocket, bouquet or shoe on my watch!
When it comes time in the ceremony to say your Vows, I've got you...! 
I'll be standing right there beside you. Not in a creepy way.... just in a supportive way. 

I'll be there with a reassuring shoulder squeeze, or holding the microphone  for you or
holding the book for you. Whichever feels more comfortable for you. 


2. Only think about your partner
What are you promising to your partner today?
What do you love the most about them? 
This is not the time for a comedy routine or to make all of your guests laugh. 
In fact, forget about your guests and just think about the person whom you are marrying. 
When it comes to writing to your Vows, go back to the Questionnaire that you filled out to help
your Celebrant write your story. 
You'll probably find that the inspiration for your Vows is already there. 

3. Structure
Your Vows do not need to be a love letter. 
Think of them as a list of promises and statements. 
An example of this.... 
…….., I choose you today, and every day.
You make me....
I am so lucky to.....
I promise to.....
I promise to......

Have fun with your Vows. 
Maybe you want to promise to finally watch that TV show you've been resisting...
Maybe you want to promise to build a family together...
Maybe be you want to promise to always have your partner's favourite chocolate in the cupboard.
Think about what you want to say to your (very near) future partner.

Trust me, you won't regret writing your own Vows.
And.... I got you! I'm here to help. 


Need some more reassurance and inspiration.....? 
Head over to read the wise words of Prue, Roxy and Kate 

Dee x